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电影进行到一家人出车祸的场景的时候，我意识到这是一个从濒死体验为切入点思考人生的片子。

联想到另一个类似的片子是Lovely Bone，充满亲情，回忆。

我不禁思考，是什么支撑我们活下来？

我们的过去，还是我们的未来？

还是那些我们爱的人？

活着的时候，我们从来没有意识到我们拥有着如此多的东西：爱我们的爸妈、男友、弟弟、闺蜜、爷爷奶奶；还有全力去追求的爱好。

当我们要失去他们的时候，我们回忆起他们的点点滴滴，会不会全力的与命运生死抗争去留在他们身边呢。

当女主知道父母弟弟全都死了之后，她一度放弃了求生的意志。

虽然waiting room里面坐满了满脸悲痛、疲惫又虔诚期盼女孩醒过来的亲朋好友；虽然他外公在病床旁，强忍住刻骨的悲痛对女孩说：我想让你活下来...但是如果太难，你累了，想放弃，我也理解；虽然知道自己离开会让男友痛不欲生；虽然。。。。

但是，如果生死边缘挣扎一遭醒过来，发现自己成了孤儿，这残酷的现实也许比死去更加痛苦吧。

有的时候，选择生反而比选择死更需要勇气。

结尾的时候，女主就要离开人世的时候，男主及时放出大招，用一首提琴曲、一封录取信、一首吉他曲终于把女主唤醒。

她终于明白自己依然可以背负着那生活的十字架活下去，那些痛苦或温暖的回忆，都是爱。

ps：至少通过这片子还知道了一个华裔大提琴家——马友友，百度了一下，啧啧，了不得啊。

说起这部电影我真的要说超杀女能如此安静，这转型真的有点吓了一跳，表现很出色，而且为了演好这个角色专门学习了大提琴真的是很用心的演员。

电影其实没有什么大的看头，最大的噱头在前文也已经说过了。

抛开生死设定就是纯纯的纯爱青春片，故事一切显得那么平淡，那么简单。

利用生死和女主人公的情感起伏来推动电影的发展主，人公的领悟与主人公死后魂魄不散的回忆想结合一点点的前进慢慢懂得了生活的真谛，然后就没有然后来。

电影的画面唯美整体给人的感觉很清新，很干净，就连出车祸的场景中也是如此。

故事台词和场景设计给人感觉到爱情的那种单纯地味道，故事推动的发展比较贴近人们的生活，有种感觉这样的类似的内容就在我的身边带一些共鸣感，值得去试一试。

电影是一部音乐很用心的电影，不多赘述，直接找原声听就好，民谣，平静，欢快，简答，音乐给我的感觉。

一句话说感受：妹子看看吧！

对于个人来说，每部电影都有自己所应该出现的年龄段，评论区里面不少人对于这部电影有消极的评价，我想说，有时候如果可以的去观影，会失去美感，要是在特定的时间去欣赏，或许能够最大限度的发现电影的美妙，挑不足并不是最终目的呀。

莫瑞兹的演技的确是本片的缺陷所在，而且对于演员来说，小莫的身材还有待提高吧，额，稍壮。。。

其它，有人说不喜欢时间片段的切换，我倒是挺欣赏的，而且基本恰到好处吧，也不细说，一定程度，我的确有被治愈了，并且，对于我这种对电影画风画质场景布置有要求的人，这部电影也是不错的。

希望越来越多的电影可以及时和我进行思想情感的碰撞。

电影业发展到现在还要把关于爱情的电影拍出新意比天马行空的科幻片难多了，我们什么样的爱情没看到过经历过，所以关于爱情电影的想象力全在形式和叙述的不同手法了。

《If I Stay》是关于一个学古典乐拉大提琴的女孩和摇滚乐队主唱/吉它之间的爱情，是不是好嗲，反正哥觉得超嗲，看完电影你们肯定读哥的英文id时不会读错和不知所云了。

帅哥美女谈琴说爱蛮爽心悦耳的，穿插着一个因交通事故会不会家庭破碎的悬念，还有那些关于亲情、爱情、友情的西方鸡汤，对于爱情电影我们不能要求更多了。

我在美国的时候就被这部电影的名字给吸引了但是因为语言问题 我没能走进电影院观看这部电影回来终于等到了有下载 和我想象的有点不同但是不至于落差很大 还不错的一部电影用插叙的手法 从出车祸开始 不断插进很多回忆她的家人都去世了 但是电影最后一秒 她存活了下来if i stay, what will happen?noboday knows what will happen nextlife is full of possiblities, happiness or sadness,they are all the reasons make life colorful and meaningful.if i stay, if i could stay, i wish i coud.

因为看过西语版本的小说兴致勃勃跑来看了翻拍的电影，可能是因为已经仔细阅读了原著，看电影时居然有一种神圣的感觉，像是沿着一条breadcrumb一点点拾掇着原著里的情节。

总体来说，可能画面注定没有文字与生俱来的细腻感，再加上时间限制，电影里的心理活动相比起原著里丝丝入扣的描写明显平淡许多。

然而原著里突出的情节在电影里都得到了很好的还原，比如年轻时代朋克风的爸爸妈妈，热爱iggy pop的泰迪小弟，摇滚风的亚当和大提琴家米娅。

正如米娅自己说的，是大提琴造就了自己，虽然让她觉得与家庭成员毫不一致，但是也让她感受到了爸爸无私的爱，为了米娅极高的天赋，他选择放弃了乐队。

正如他说，有时候，牺牲是必要的。

最后米娅还是在挣扎中醒来，或许是爷爷的释然，或许是好友的鼓励，又或许是亚当的挽留和吉他，总之，醒来后的生活确实是大变样，不过，一切都会好起来的，不是吗？

最后表白男主，青涩的脸庞简直是少女心扑通，玩音乐果真是大大的魅力加分项。

大提琴与吉他的相遇，那是怦然心动的难以忘怀的美丽的爱情。

沉静的温柔是种让人放下所有戒备和不安的向往，那一刻，他知道他一直在等她，因而真正见到的时候，他一眼便认出，那就是她。

既是欢喜心动的，也是踏实舒畅的。

传统保守的大提琴总是把自己抑制的像一潭不起波澜的湖水，蓝蓝的沉郁，在演奏中也是把琴弦当做命弦一般紧紧把握着，张弛有力，不容分毫的瑕疵。

吉他有他的狂放不羁，当然也会那般柔情；大提琴有她的沉稳执着，当然也会那般激情。

爱从来不是被习惯和爱好所界开的。

爱的是你，无论你的衣装与头发的颜色。

你在我心里始终是被我深深爱着，我们彼此了解到那一点就已足够。

没有一对相处的情侣能够避免争执，也在争执的过程中相互伤害，因为我们是在生活，不存在乌托邦的理想国，柏拉图的爱情也只是假设中所呈现的。

痛苦的爱情就像玫瑰一样鲜艳和强有力。

So this turned out to be the movie I chose as my last movie of 2014 & first movie of 2015. What drew me in was the title and the general idea of choosing between life and death. Halfway through, not knowing how it'll end, I was reminded yet again how much I hate unhappy endings, even though happy ones do leave less of a mark. Low expectations really helped. I knew beforehand it couldn't hold a candle to "TFIOS", and later decided for myself that it was indeed not great, but also not terrible either. Many "shining points" made me want to read the book for more of them. And it made me cry, rather easily. I got close to tears when "Gramps" spoke to Mia in the car after the audition, and shed a few when he spoke to her again by the hospital bed, when he told her what her father sacrificed for her. Oh yeah, I was already pretty touched by that scene in which her father gave her the cello -- beautifully wrapped -- as a present. I cried again when Adam begged her to stay in the end. When they left me hanging for a while at the very end, I was dying to know her choice and begging her to stay as well. I already knew this very well, but them Yankees really, really know how to love and how to live. Look at her grandfather in the car: when he felt something and knew it to be true, he expressed it. Loud and clear. Leaving no regrets. Then to top it off, throw in some physical closeness -- in this case, a long and hard hug. That's how you say how much you love someone, instead of the way I'm used to -- no words, to touch, only implied and guessed. Also, look how they have fun: the concerts, the bonfire, "live in the moment"... God I'm so jealous. I have wasted more than 24 years of my life. How many more years do I get? How many more could I afford to waste?"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans.""Seriously, I respect any musician who just leaves it all on the stage like that. She was awesome.""Because I like to watch you play. You go to another place. And you're beautiful.""No, baby, I didn't give anything up. I played that adventure out, and then it was time for a new adventure with you guys. And sometimes you make choices in life, and sometimes choices make you. Does that make any sense?""Even when they were just wasting time, they weren't wasting time. It was as if no time they spent together could ever be wasted.""You're going to go to Juilliard and play the hell out of your cello. Or you're not. You're gonna stay with Adam and have lots of amazing adventures. Or you're not. Or maybe tomorrow, the Earth's gonna smash into a meteor. Or it's not. Life is this big fat gigantic stinking mess. But that's the beauty of it too. Whatever you do, I support you. Either way, you win. And also either way there's something that you lose. What can I say, baby? True love's a bitch."

We, grown-ups, seems to be stubbornly convinced that young adult stories are stupid, and only teenagers themselves will be silly enough to fall in love with this kind of "so-called" romantic novels. For that we already knew the transitory characteristic of love. We understand it, crystal clear, right from the beginning of the film that their love story might not even live through the winter, they are not going to survive the long distance after high school, not to mention that the post-traumatic stress our heroine must deal with as long as she wake up after the car accident(, though this is the story in its sequel 'Where She Went'). We know that, time itself might bring an end to the relationship between this young man and this young woman.But, is it not the most beautiful part of every teenager love story, or of puberty? What make those young children, those teenager boys and girls so attracting is that they take their pure love, their approaching departure, their breakup as this important that their hearts are tortured by whips for thousands of times. The pain is all that matters, that hurts, that suffocates, and they think they will never get through this. They struggle, they quarrel, they cry, they reconcile with each other, as love and pain remains the only theme of their adolescence.They do not know now, but they will understand it one day, that all these love and pain, joy and suffering will become a memory with bitter sweets or even a memory with no colour, a memory that brings back no sensation. However, this never counteract the real experience they are right now undergoing. All these hurts, all these emotions, all these tears are once so real, that almost break their hearts or already broke them. They live in drama, not because they are affected, but their lives are filled with dramatic conflicts. Not until the puberty ends, along with the death of drama, will these whole true life-play come to a termination.Then, teenage love, which is so void but sincere, dies alongside with it.

车祸发生的太早，观众和一家人的情感尚未完全建立，再加上毫发无损的Chloë Grace Moretz好好的站在那里，所以心痛的代入感不强烈。

Mia的抢救，用再多术语，说得再严重都没用，因为她就在那里，毫无痛苦。

只是焦急得看着这一切的发生。

其实这是一个幸运的女孩，有最好的亲情，最好的友情，以及最好的爱情，却遭遇到灭门的灾难，原本是最好的复杂情绪引发情感共鸣的契机，可惜没有达成。

传统难免保守，叛逆多少偏激。

Mia父母，一个是摇滚少年，一个是叛逆少女。

居然分分钟变成居家楷模。

从不认为自己的牺牲是牺牲，是因为是用它换取了更想要的东西。

爸爸卖掉爵士鼓，买了大提琴，是因为有些人的快乐，比他自己的快乐更能让他快乐；有些人的幸福，比他自己的幸福更能让他幸福。

爱情永远是青少年电影的主角，但本片中亲情绝对占了上风，即便Adam相当完美。

爱情永远不会像亲情一样无偿付出，单向付出是爱情的杀手。

两人都有梦想，也都知道对方的梦想。

梦想是让他们强大的原因，也是他们会相互吸引的原因，但最后成为了他们必须分开的原因。

Mia最后选择回归人世，而不是撒手人寰，是电影的需要。

影片在她睁眼一刻戛然而止。

是因为无法想象之后能如何继续？

失去全部家人的Mia，会不会继续求学？

面对成为孤儿又外出求学的Mia，Adam会不会放弃乐队相随？

十年后一个蜚声国际的爱乐乐团首席大提琴手，和一个人到中年除了弹吉他什么都不会的家庭妇男又会发生什么故事。